I didn’t really want to go workout yesterday. I wanted to come home, eat, and be in bed for the night. It had been five days since I had been to the Crossfit gym. It is taking me about two days to recover from a workout right now. I did have to travel with my son over the weekend to a baseball tournament, but regardless it had been a while. One thing I like about our gym is that you have to sign up for classes in advance, so there is a level of commitment and planning. I had signed up early Monday morning to go that evening, so I had to go or lose my money.
I’ve always looked at really active folks as being hyper-motivated. I see people running marathons and playing sports at a high level and I just think to myself “Wow”. I’ve always been driven in my personal and professional life. I’ve never been able to sustain that drive for a long period with my health. That just doesn’t make any sense!????!!!!
I probably wouldn’t have taken this mission upon myself if I hadn’t been disgusted with blowing out my favorite pair of jeans. And maybe that’s the real answer…
I’ve always taught sales people who their number one competitor is always the status quo. People would rather do what they know and are comfortable with than try something new, even if the benefits are there to at least try it. As the saying goes: “The devil you know is better than the devil you don’t”. It is easier to be fat.
Eating fast food is easy. Sitting on your ass is easy. Making excuses is easy. Sneak eating chocolate in the car so your kids don’t know is easy (yes I’m talking to you).
All these things are easy. And even though we know they may not be the best for us, we continue to do them because we know how to deal with them. We feel the guilt of a Big-Mac for a second but we know that we can rationalize its consumption even faster. The thought of actually walking into a gym with people who go every day is terrifying. I don’t think the fear is that we can’t do it but more of what happens after we do it.
Something happens to us though when we get disgusted. Folks generally don’t leave a job, bad relationship, or bad habit until they are truly sick and tired of where they are. The fear of the unknown devil that might be sobriety or a shelter is no longer paralyzing them. The fearing the gym may not have the same imminent intimidation that an abusive spouse does, they both do have a direct reflection on your quality of life.
I’ve battled my fair share of demons. They are all a part of my story. And they all were comfortable in their own way. Changing those behaviors required me to be uncomfortable. PEOPLE HATE BEING UNCOMFORTABLE. The pregnant pause between a question and answer is the scariest thing in the world for people and they rush to fill the space rather than sitting in its silence and waiting for it to resolve itself. Lifestyle changes are even scarier. You get the uncomfortable silence of your own mind while its debating doing the right or wrong thing combined with the physical pull of your body to respond as you have taught it to. Uncomfortable, paralyzing, and powerful…all rolled into one.
So is that step to run out the door every morning truly motivation in a tri-athlete? Or is it possibly the fact that they were finally disgusted with the status quo battle they were fighting with the fat guy on the couch their whole life. So when your cubemate is talking about their new successful part of their life laud them for their success, but take a second to think about how they got there and realize that the first step probably started from disgust and not motivation…just like yours will.