Let’s assume the obvious. We all love:
Now that we have pulled back the obvious list, what’s left?
What really gets inside your heart and moves you to action?
What makes you smile?
For me, one of the things I really love is being a youth coach. And when my son started playing sports I had no desire to coach. I wanted to be involved. I wanted to be at every practice but I never wanted to be the guy. It started with helping with baseball.
I grew up playing baseball and Seaver seemed to have some natural ability in the sport and t-ball is like cat herding, you need a lot of hands to keep them under control. Somewhere in the middle of that season, I fell in love with those kids. I loved watching them get better, I loved being there when they did something new, and I just loved being a big kid with them. It was awesome.
As fun as baseball was, is, and will continue to be; for me it pails in comparison to football.
Last summer Seaver mentioned that he wanted to play football and I was concerned. I thought he was too little and too young. We knew he had an opportunity to play football with some of his friends and decided to give it a shot. The first few weeks was very difficult. But about a week before the first game, it started to get fun. And the more fun it got for him, the more involved I became. I never really was a formal “coach” last season, but I was at almost every practice, was on the sidelines, and got to know all those kids and watch them grow and get better.
This year I was much more involved with baseball and I have the pleasure of being the head coach for our football team this year. And it is far from an easy task. One parent sent me an email recently thanking me for my involvement and dedication to the kids. As I was reading it all I could think about was, “What else would I be doing?”. Most of my great male role models growing up were my coaches. I am lucky that all my kids have fathers involved in their lives but I learned first hand last year how influential a coach can be on a young child and I take that responsibility seriously.
As much as I want to win, that is not what is important. I get the privilege of teaching these young men a great game and watching them grow up before my eyes. They learn respect, teamwork, discipline, and how to deal with adversity. Football teaches so many life lessons for both them and me.
Find something you love. Coaching, needlepoint, serving the homeless, landscaping, or surfing.
Find something that lights your fire and that you can’t wait for the next time you can do it
Find something that you can tell your friends and family about and it lights you up every time you talk about it.
Find something you love and pour your heart into it.
And don’t forget when you find that something, you also need to pour that same kind of love into the list of things that we all love.